Thread:HYZX/@comment-24382776-20140223181347/@comment-24382776-20140227023429

Okay well, here i go with my thoughts.

I definitely don't think they were abusive (on purpose), i believe they were trying to protect their children but they did everything wrong.

I honestly think they were too harsh on Elsa, from the beggining, when they walked into the ballroom and saw the girls, the king shouted "Elsa, what have you done?" instead of "what happened?" or something less hurtful, they immediately assumed Elsa was guilty, yes, the ballroom was frozen but you know, how could they know that Anna hadn't slipped or something else? They just assumed Elsa had hurt her (which was true but my point is they didn't even let her explain before accusing her).

When they talked to the trolls, the king said "We'll protect her, she can learn to control it i'm sure" yet, instead of teaching or trying to teach her to control it, he told her to conceal it and basically made her feel ashamed of something that should make her feel proud and special. Honestly, they put Anna's well being and needs above Elsa's, maybe not on purpose but they still did, Anna was their priority; they divided the sisters and put them in two completely different worlds, let me explain...

On one hand, you have Anna, yes, she lived her life wondering why her sister didn't love her anymore and locked in the castle but you can see she clearly had a childhood, she had the entire castle for herself and even though we don't get to see a lot of scenes of her with her parents, it's obvious they had a very good relationship, she loved them and she knew they loved her because they were loving and warm with her, you can see that in the scene where she says "See you in two weeks" and they have a cute family hug.

Now, moving on to the saddest part/character of the movie in my opinion, on the other hand you have Elsa, who was told she was dangerous and bad since she was 8 because of her gift (which later she considered a curse), you see young Elsa as she looks through the window with a smile on her face wishing to go out (she was locked in her room all the time) and play with her sister but then she freezes the window and you can see how scared she is after that, after her dad gives her the gloves telling her to conceal it and not let it show, then we see teen Elsa and by that point she was terrified of her own powers, it's so sad how she wouldn't even allow her dad to touch her because she believed she was dangerous, why? Because they made her feel that way, they made her hate herself, finally we see Elsa as a very young adult saying bye to her parents and that's the most heartbreaking part of the whole scene to be honest, first of all, she is standing away from them which says a lot and the way she treats them and the way THEY treat her is just.....so bad "Do you have to go?" she asks scared, "You'll be fine, Elsa" her dad answers coldly, i mean come on, that's not how a daughter says bye to her parents or how parents treat their daughter,

On comparision, they raised Anna as their daughter, they loved her and made her feel so and they raised Elsa to be the queen, they loved her but they DID NOT make her feel that way, when she was saying bye to them it was like she was speaking to a couple of guests in the castle, that wasn't a daughter and her parents, Anna and them were a daughter and her parents, SUCH A BIG AND VERY IMPORTANT DIFFERENCE, at the funeral Anna was all alone, Elsa couldn't even get out of her room because she'd frozen everything and Anna could NOT find out about her powers, her parents had told her that and she couldn't fail again, she couldn't hurt Anna again.

If their parents had treated them equally, Elsa wouldn't be so fearful and/or Anna wouldn't be so fearless, they're completely different persons because that's how their parents raised them and it really upsets me because even though they clearly loved them both, they didn't do what was best for them, especially for Elsa, they ruined her childhood and marked her life. Elsa's powers went from being a "gift" since she was born with them to being a "curse" in her mind.

Conclusion: The king and the queen of Arendelle tried to be good parents but their parenting WAS TERRIBLE and it sadly ruined their kids childhoods/lives, especially Elsa's.