Talk:Abuelita (Coco)/@comment-1146923-20191030064337

She reminds me a little of my own grandmother; when I was a kid, I told my grandmother some of my dreams and she poked holes in all of them as if telling me 'why bother' without actually saying it

Elena and Imelda both had a rather self-righteous view on family, that they forget that family is supposed to love you no matter what, to support you when you're unsure of what to do and at a loss, to guide you towards the right path and doing the right thing, to encourage you to follow your hopes and dreams, to hold onto you until you're ready to fly on your own wings and let go

Now, they both argued that Hector was the example of how following one's dreams lead to abandoning family. However, a family is not a single entity but a unit of individuals, all unique, with their own virtues, flaws, thoughts, and desires

The tighter you hold onto family to keep them close and being deaf to their thoughts and feelings are what drive those family members away in hurt and bitterness. Elena was cruel and honestly shameless to smash Miguel's guitar to pieces and assume the issue was resolved, that I didn't blame Miguel in the slightest for running away and saying he didn't want to be a part of this family that didn't seem to care about his own feelings and his own desires. Not even his parents were sympathetic to Miguel's feelings

It took Miguel singing Hector's song to Mama Coco, restoring her lucidity, to get the Riveras to see that Music isn't a bad thing and hearing her mother speak to her and recognize her for Elena to accept her grandson's love of music and make amends with Miguel. In the last scene during Proud Corazon, Elena, with her mother's spirit at her side, looked so warm and happy and proud, you could tell she finally understood that despite the generations' long ban of it, Music had brought her family together closer and stronger than ever and all the Riveras were truly happy